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It's been a rough few weeks ...Posted Friday, August 15, 2008, at 11:43 AM
I mean, how do you explain things you don't understand yourself? My little boy, Will, is 6 years old. Just over a month ago, he lost his godfather to a motorcycle accident. Yesterday, his great-grandfather, to whom he was exceedingly close, died. He is just a kid, and he has been dealt two tremendous losses in the space of a month. He asks me why these things have happened, and I don't know what to tell him. I'm a grown-up, and I know how to grieve. I know that death is permanent and I know I have to keep on with my daily life ... going to work, grocery shopping, doing the dishes, etc. ... even though I'm hurting and sometimes I just plain don't feel like it. I cling to my faith in times like this, but I've had years to develop that response and to know that, for me, is what works when I'm at the end of my rope and feeling tested. In our society, we can't stop for grief. But in Will's mind, the world should pause for a while because these terrible things have happened and his little heart is breaking. Will has always been ... well, a Mama's Boy, for lack of a better phrase. He's my baby and I've probably coddled him a little more than I should have. But now, with all this upheaval, he's become downright clingy. I just don't know what to do with him ... I don't know how to get him to talk about what's bothering him rather than acting out. I'm the mom, and I'm supposed to know everything. It really makes me feel ineffectual when I don't. Comments Showing most recent comments first [Show in chronological order instead] |
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Also, maybe tell him that you have a hard time too and that everyone deals with things differently, and ask him how he feels like dealing with it. You don't want him to feel weird or different on top of being sad.
Our young family friend who will be celebrating her 14th birthday later this week, lost her mother to cancer on this young girl's 9th birthday. As you know, this in not the present one expects to receive. Around this time, the young girl complains of sickness, can't go to school, etc. some uncaring observers think it's an act. Jamie as you are aware, we all deal with our loss and grief in different ways. We should remember to show caring and support to our youth. Thanks for sharing your story.
At six years old I would think you need to do what your heart tells you to do. You won't go wrong there. Good luck.